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Father absent: the suffering of girls

The reasons and consequences of the absence of a father in the intellectual, moral and emotional education of his children are manifold. Here are some tracks. These are generalities certainly, that must be adjusted according to the case, but which offer a reflection for the parents.

Some reasons for the absence

Fathers are unaware of the responsibility that paternity entails, and go off-side, or even abandon family and children. Others accept that mothers have traditionally been educators, leaving them the initiative in this area. Others feel less competent to know what to do with their children. Others are depressed, alcoholic or otherwise, and do not invest in the relationship with their children; even present they are as absent. Others are evacuated by the mother or some children. Others are also sidelined by court decisions in which the father is only a payer-provider and not a full-fledged educator.

Father daughter relationship: fundamental

We often talk about the importance of the father-son relationship. It often becomes a priority in adolescence, as at the same age becomes the mother-daughter relationship. But it would be wrong to underestimate the relationship between a father and his daughter since birth and in pre-adolescent childhood.

Many discussions I had with fathers, mothers and especially girls show that the lack of the father generates suffering that manifests itself in different ways.

Relationship to father, relation to man

Through her father, a girl discovers what a man is, how it works. She learns to manage the masculine force, to tame it, to coax it, to confront it sometimes. She learns to relativize him, namely that he has his flaws and that it does not matter. In disagreement or confrontation she learns to set her limits, to say yes or no.

The girl, who has built a part of her interiority in the initial protective maternal fusion, acquires with her father the possibility of putting her personality at stake in the social, to externalize herself, to take place in the world. With this, she will know how to position herself clearly in her emotional, friendly and professional relationships.

Thanks to the father, and in good conditions of course, girls learn to gradually build a relationship between men and women of partnership, mutual recognition and therefore of equal value.

The suffering of girls

The girl whose father has been absent for some reason will lack the dynamic, constructive and stimulating affectivity she needs to grow up. It will know less position in affectivity, will be less autonomous and more dependent. She will sometimes look for a man who is also his father symbolically, biasing the love relationship from the beginning. Because once she becomes an adult emotionally, which will sometimes happen thanks to her relationship, she will often break up as she would have broken the filial bond to take control of her life.

The father's absence nourishes the expectation of Prince Charming, who is known to be a decoy. The girl will not have been able to learn to relativize the father, to be in disagreement, even to be disappointed - what is essential to build on its own bases. If she renews this expectation in the couple, the inevitable disappointment will not be a factor of growth but failure of the couple lived as a personal failure, with what it implies loss of self-esteem and guilt.

The fatherless girls dream their lives, but have not had a model to find out how to realize their dreams.

Daughters without a father often cry in a low voice, even when they smile. They dream of something they did not have, and they do not know where to find. For never can a husband or a companion bring them this initial strength of the father.

It's not his role, it's not his time.