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How to educate a child? 16 basic rules
1. Do what you say
and don't say what you won't do!
(to remain credible in the eyes of the child)
- If you say "One more time and you go to bed" and the child disobeys again, don't give him a second chance. Don't threaten into a vacuum. Do not repeat the same thing 5 times. After a threat, take action. (Otherwise, the child will not be afraid of your threats and will not obey.)
- Do not say a threat that you will not be able to respect. Ex: “Once again and you won't watch TV for a month” when you know that you won't stick to this ban that long.
"If you keep going, you will copy it to me 1000 times" while you will only demand 20 times or 100 times.
- It's better not to say anything than to say something you won't do.
- Be firm, internally convinced that you will succeed in obtaining your request. The child should not detect hesitation and fragility in your instructions.
- Stop shouting; say things once and act calmly but firmly.
2. Be more stubborn than him!
Too many parents break down when a child "throws a capricious tantrum" to stop the fit.
If you say "no", you must not change your mind if the child starts to cry, moan, sulk, scream, hit, bite, ...
The stubbornness of a child and the refusal to obey is inversely proportional to the stubbornness of the parents!
Indeed, the more a parent "cracks", gives in, changes his mind, the more the child will be strengthened in his stubborn behavior.
A child said to be "stubborn" is therefore the result of a parent who is not enough.
So one of the "tips" in education is to BE STUDENT THAN YOUR CHILD !!
The child will quickly understand that there is no point in insisting, crying, having a fit ...
To succeed in "standing up", it is necessary
distance yourself emotionally,
not to be coaxed by tears,
not have compassion for capricious behavior
tell yourself that if you crack, he will have "won"
tell yourself that if you crack, your "crisis" will be reinforced for the next few times
tell yourself that it is not the children who decide, but the parents (they can give their opinion and say what they think)
3. Praise, encourage good behavior
- Don't just comment on him when he disobeys, when he does something wrong.
Be sure to balance your reviews: that there are at least as many positive and negative comments.
- Avoid systematic material rewards. "If you have a nice ballot, you will have money, a bike"
(He must behave well for pleasure, to please, because he knows it is best and not to receive something.)
- Reward the behavior rather than the result: one child can work hard and get 70% on their report card while another makes no effort and has 80% on their report card.
We must therefore reward, congratulate the work done, the efforts made, the behavior rather than the result.
Do you prefer a kid who cheats and wins their tennis match or a kid who stays honest, fair and loses their match?
4. Give it lots of love (and time)!
- Besides your discipline, the punishments you give him, spend time with your child. Play, chat with him, take an interest in what he's doing and show him that you love him. Listen to him. (This is the best way for him to understand and accept the discipline you demand.)
- Do not give him love when he does something wrong, when he disobeys.
- Give them regular hugs! Treat them emotionally!
- Tell them explicitly that you love them!
5. Penalize directly
(and not two days later)
- A sanction made several days after the offense will have much less effect than a sanction which directly follows the act committed.
- Do not let your child be politely, insulting someone without intervening, without punishing them.
Choose sanctions that annoy the child. (Otherwise he will continue to exceed the limits without fear of punishment.)
Do not choose sanctions that last for days, weeks or months.
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